“Never rearrange your life in order to meet Mr. Darcy half way. If he couldn’t see your worth at the moment you met, then he won’t two years later. May the halls of Pemberly be filled with his regrets and your life filled with thankfulness because of this revelation.”
(Shannon L. Alder)
When I read this wise and truthful quote this morning it made me think of the many times I’ve seen someone try to change and adjust their life and personality in order to be more appealing to someone else.
Every time we try to change who we are in order to be appealing to others, we lose a little of ourselves. Hiding our inner self and trying to keep up appearances to the world will leads to frustration and a loss of trust and belief in oneself. Eventually the true self of a person will wish to be free and will show itself. Good or bad.
For a moment, accepting another person’s mask, wearing a mask ourselves, whitewashing, or wearing rose-colored glasses may seem to make us happy but long-term will bring frustration and unhappiness.
… whoever wears a mask to the world, eventually the true self will show.
So, be true to yourself, trust your instincts, and believe in who you are.
The choices you make in life will be wiser if you base them on your own self-worth, not on the idea of another person’s mask, an imagined belief of what someone else might be, nor the fairytale thoughts of what another person may become one day.
Look beneath the mask of others before you base your self-worth on a make-belief image.